RONNIE,DAVID, GOLIATH AND ME

By Peter Vuono

   Generally speaking, I had a happy childhood but there was oftentimes looming over my head, a shroud of fear. I was both physically and somewhat emotionally inferior to most of my peers. I was extremely diminutive in size; I oftentimes couldn't even digest my food. This in turn gave me a complex of interiority. I was often bullied and often afraid.

   Once in a movie theater, I was bullied away from a drinking fountain so a young tough and his sister could drink. At the same theater, I was so frightened by one  of  Ray Harryhausen's creations that I fled from the monster on the screen and walked out of the theater. I was so afraid of one of my parochial school teachers, that I ,on 3 occasions, got sick to my stomach and raced to the men's room! A butterfly's metamorphosis has 4 stages of development and mine would begin with my two cousins David and Ronnie Zoia.

   I never needed to read about the Titans of ancient Greece because they were personified by my two cousins. Ronnie was about 6"2" and a solid 220 lbs. He was a football phenom and once in his kitchen he pressed me over his head! Ron was the quarterback  for Hofstra. At about the same time a famous comedian did a popular monologue about the Hofstra team. He stated, "The smallest guy on the team was 6"1" and 490lbs!" He would later be drafted by the Buffalo Bills. This was quite commendable as he was working along side of NFL legend Daryl Lamonica  which made competition fierce! A knee injury caused him to move into another field where he would excel- Education.

   I'll not ever forget the day Ronnie, as an administrator, jumped out of a window like Batman to chase a recalcitrant motorcyclist  on foot whose revving engine disrupted the school environment!

  If cousin David were painted green I would never have had to read about the Incredible Hulk. Dave was a bit shorter at about 5"10" and weighed a solid 218! He had a penchant for bodybuilding and I'll not forget the time in his living room where after much prodding he flexed his left bicep. I'll never forget the gasps it drew including one from my father! Dave had a heart of gold. He knew I loved dinosaurs and he bought a dino comic book from the corner store next to his home. He saw me salivate over it as he reached his front door and without even reading the 1st page he gave me the comic. I never forgot the memory!

  I wanted to be like these guys but I didn't, at the time know how. Ronnie and David were the 1st two phases of my metamorphosis in defeating MY Goliath of fear and inferiority. It would continue by my being mesmerized by the mighty men of the silver screen and TV. The final stages of my changeover occurred after my being inspired by Steeve Reeves, George Reeves and of course, Bruno Sammartino.

  I started lifting weights and never looked back. In 74 I came in 2nd in the Eastern States Powerlifting Championships in Nashua. When the time came for a teaching job interview, my superiors Messrs. Phinney and LaBranche were so impressed with my powerlifting  that they gave me a job on the spot.

  I would win the NH State Powerlifting Championships in 77 but more importantly the love of my wife Diane.This lead to two wonderful children and a 35 year career in special Ed. thanks to the inspiration of my two cousins coupled with the mighty men of the silver screen and TV. I had come full circle and felled the Philistine. My Goliath is now dead.

 God sent his grace to king David. In a different manner he sent inspiration to me to defeat my demons. He did it for me and he can do it for you!

"Reaching into his shepherd's bag and taking out a stone, he hurled it with his sling and hit the Philistine in the forehead. The stone sank in his forehead, and he fell faced down to the ground"- 1 SAMUEL 17:48

 VICTOR

By Peter Vuono

   In 1922 6 year old Adolph Truesdell hated his given name. In part it was because he was often bullied for it. When he could take the bullying no more, he took on and beat up and older bully. From that moment on all friends, and acquaintances called him "Tuffy".

   Tuffy would join the US Army and fought in WWII. After the war he took on a penchant for two things; he loved animals and pro wrestling. Truesdell had a very interesting and unique angle however in his act. He would certainly wrestle men but also his PET ALLIGATOR which he kept in a tub in his bedroom!

   After an accident with his pet which caused Tuffy to suffer 45 stitches he retired his gator and pondered what he could do next. There was no internet back then but Tuffy got a call that a mother bear was accidentally shot to death in Ontario and had two cubs. Upon receiving the "tip", he drove the same day 500 miles to Ontario before the authorities could claim the body.

  The mom black bear was dead as was her baby girl cub. Still surviving, however was the male cub and Tuffy wasted no time in taking him home. He would name the male "Victor", give him a home and fed him all sorts of treats such as Coca Cola that Victor should never have had. Then, Tuffy got the idea to train Victor to wrestle.

  At an early age, the vet would cut the claws short enough so that they couldn't tear opponents apart. Next Tuffy would put a muzzle on Victor for his matches only. It's VERY hard to ascertain how many matches Victor hade. He wrestled pro athletes, Tuffy himself, pro wrestlers and audience volunteers . His record was approx. 10,000-0-1. The only draw was to Peggy Jones, the heaviest female wrestler of all time.

Victor would become a celebrity and was on Tell The Truth, Johnny Carson, Mike Douglas and of course, Ed Sullivan. In an old Youtube video, Sullivan can be seen feeding Victor his beloved Coca-Cola!

 Animal rights activists often criticized Tuffy and personally I would have to agree that it was exploitation for profit. In fairness to Tuffy, however, because of his love for his pet and his zeal for making a living it caused him to be blinded in knowing that Victor MIGHT have fared better in the wild.

   Victor passed in 1975 at age 17. All other substitute bears that Tuffy used failed miserably and bear wrestling would be banned in the US in and around 1992. Truesdell's wife, Lee stated that Tuffy was devastated upon Victor's death and although exploitation was INDEED  in effect Victor lead a happy life albeit not a terribly long one and in an odd sort of way it endorses adoption of pets. Victor would have died had he been left alone. Like wise, all pets in shelters WILL live short lives if we don't adopt. The story of Tuffy and Victor  is one of love for a pet and adoption of them  and is clearly illustrated here in this unique friendship.

  On March, 30, 2001, Tuffy would pass away at age 84. At the Swain Memorial park in Hyson North Carolina the grave of Tuffy A. Truesdell bears the engraved emblem of a smiling bear.

 

THE FINEST KIND

By Peter Vuono

  One of my favorite movies is one filmed locally called "The Finest kind". I like it because the most dramatic scene was filmed at the Supreme House of Donuts on Crescent St. in my home town of Brockton. Other beautiful scenes were filmed by the sea in New Bedford and Fairhaven.

  In the movie's tear jerking and action packed climax, Tommy Lee Jones tells his son, "Some day if you ever have a son, the first time you look at him you get a feeling all at once that you'd die for him. A little thing you've never seen before and you'd stone cold die for him".

  I think that this thought is probably agreed upon by most of us who are parents but as I was driving along one day, I thought of the movie and then asked myself" We would die for our kids but what does it say about a man who would and DID die for his dog"?

  When we think the Pittsburgh Steelers we are full of fond memories and excitement about Franco Harris, Terry Bradshaw, Jon Kolb, Mike Webster, LC Greenwood, Jack Lambert and, of course, Mean Joe Green et al. All sports heroes  for certain but there was one who gave his life for his pet who stands far above so many others.

   Steve Courson was a Massachusetts native. He played for the Steelers in 4 Superbowls and won two Superbowl rings. Upon his trade to Tampa, The 300lb Courson who registered an official 605 bench press in a contest, contracted  a virus of the heart and was a candidate for a transplant!.

   He decided to get off steroids and write about the sad abuse of them in the NFL in his fine book, "False Glory". Amazingly, he nursed himself back to good health. He was  clean and was no longer in need of an artificial heart. He went to Tampa Bay camp, worked hard to get his weight up and won the "Ed Bloc" trophy from his teammates for the best  injured player comeback for the Bucs that year.

   In 2007 at his home in Farmington Pennsylvania, Steve decided to take on by himself the chore of felling a 44 foot tree on his property. After the cut a strong wind caused the tree to fall the wrong way toward his black labrador retriever. The former offensive lineman still had great speed and rushed to quickly and successfully push his dog out of harms way. In doing so, the tree fell on Steve killing him instantly. When EMT's arrived, his dog was standing guard over Steve's lifeless body.

  So when I hear Tommy Lee Jones prophetic words in the movie talking about dying for a loved one, somehow I always think of this football hero who became so much more than that.

  Josh billings once said, that "A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself. Steve Courson knew it and acted upon it. He was truly, "The Finestkind".

  

 SO WHAT IF IT'S A "WORK"!

By Peter Vuono

   I noticed this morning that a great many of my FB friends are livid with the thought that the Tyson/Paul fight was not legitimate; that it may have been staged. First, you the reader need to know two Carny terms used by wrestlers. The first one is "work". This means the match is predetermined and the wrestlers trust each other to not  hurt each other, take home their pay and perform again a day or two later.

  The second term is a "shoot". This is a term which means that someone got hot under the collar and the match is quite real. This happens rarely as wrestlers want to be safe so that they can"work" again.

  Did anyone actually say that the Tyson/Paul match was legitimate? I don't think so and I don't fault the fighters or promoters for staging a fight if that is what happened. YOU got excited to see the fight and were entertained. Secondly, both Paul and Tyson were unharmed as far as this author knows and took home a great deal of money to feed their families.

  Do you remember Evil Knievel's Snake river Canyon jump with the Sky Cycle? He went over the canyon half way, parachuted and had no intention of risking a complete jump. You and I were "worked".  Sports that actually are legitimate run the risk of seriously hurting the athletes and fans!

  Think of the concussions involved with  pro football players and CTE. How many fans are injured a soccer games by fans trampling others. Remember after a Boston Red Sox celebration where a young girl had a misplaced pepper ball shot in her eye causing her death? There's a lot to say about an event being "worked". We wrestling fans know well of the "predetermined" match. We can usually guess the outcome and go home both entertained and delighted. So my question is," Why can't you"? There are so many more things in life so much more important.

  One final note; with the enormous amount of "scammers" out there, don't forget that YOU can be worked and taken advantage of in just about every facet of your life. Something to keep in mind if the fight was indeed a "work"  Worse things could happen to you. I hope they don't

  

 A BOY AND HIS DOG

Title by Harlan Ellison

Story by Peter Vuono

   In the 70's and 80's my favorite books were by Ray Bradbury. He was such an incredible story teller that after each story, I'd have to put the book down and just ponder the impact that he had such a knack at conveying .There was another favorite of mine, however who made the reader really work to find out what he was trying to say. This was Harlan Ellison who successfully sued James Cameron for borrowing the premise of Ellison's story "Soldier" for the Terminator.

   I read Ellison's "A Boy and His Dog" in 69. It's a very harsh read with a great deal of sex, violence and social decadence but every time I think about it I realize that Ellison had a message which is even more relevant now then in 69.

   It's a post apocalyptic tale of a teenage boy- Vic and his beloved dog "Blood". They spend their days only trying to eat and survive. They violently encounter a female protagonist- Quilla- who in time has feelings for Vic. Quilla, however was part of a ruse, to lure Vic underground to help populate a dying race of men who could not produce children.

   Vic knew, that Blood would not survive without him and he, Vic, would not survive without Blood. He makes the only

altruistic decision he's ever made and leaves with Blood. Quilla screams at him,"Don't you know what love is?". Vic answers, "Sure I know. A boy loves his dog".

  This graphic and hard to read tale has immense irony attached to it. The dog has been domesticated for 35,000 years going all the way back to the Pleistocene period under the Cro-Magnon Man! However, after all this time and an apocalypse, it is the dog, not the humans, that maintains the noble quality of loyalty and love. Here, in this one instance, Vic does what the dog would have always done. He would become as loyal as "Blood" was.

  Our age, here in the 21st century, is without an apocalypse but is rife with the horribleness of Ellison's story with a society rampant with violence, immorality, profanity, war and selfishness and yet, it is the dog, an alleged lower functioning animal, that maintains purity.

  Ellison's tale was a warning that is just as relevant now as it was in 69. I'm not a super idealist. I know that we can't all at once turn back many pages. However, didn't Confucius say that a thousand mile journey starts with one step?

  There as so many things we can do to insure that the savage society that Harlan Ellison predicted doesn't happen.

Instead of Tik-toc- read a book,

Encourage rather than discourage,

Praise rather than vilify,

Never pass up an opportunity to be kind,

Give the homeless guy a dollar,

Rather than sleeping in on Sunday, go to a house of worship,

Open the store door for a stranger,

Occasionally pay for the guy behind you at the doughnut shop,

Help the poor when you're able,

and vote for candidates that will protect mother earth.

   Harlan Ellison was a self proclaimed atheist. It is ironic that the work and thoughts of an atheist are,  at times,  just as important and meaningful a message as  that of some religious scholars.

If we heed his warning and try to slowly turn back the pages one at a time, the apocalypse he foretold will remain a parable and we will truly be on a path to redemption and salvation.

 LETTERS FROM BEHIND BARS

By Peter Vuono

   A long time ago, I befriended a fellow who was a much admired, world class athlete. He had been an Olympian and a Pan American Champion. He then gravitated to professional athleticism and made a more than decent salary. I met him in January and February of 1985. It was at the old Boston Garden. during our 2nd visit that I handed to him a copy of an article I wrote about him that was written in an Australian Magazine. He thanked me, shook my hand and it would be the last I would ever see of him.

   Some unfortunate and unforeseen circumstances would land him in prison for a two to three year sentence which would be extra hard as he had two young children. A few months after his incarceration, I received from him a very warm, heartfelt and uplifting letter of thanks. I didn't think too much of it then but now, decades later, as I look at the letter, I realized that it spoke volumes!

  One of the biggest persecutors of Christians was Saint Paul who actually witnessed the stoning murder of Saint Stephen. When he converted over to Christianity, he too was incarcerated and wrote all of his memorable letters of the New Testament from prison. I realized that my friend's letter was so much more than a letter of thanks.

   There can't be a more vile place to be in than a prison. Yet my friend took the time to thank me and uplift my spirits which are too often down from one of the worst places on earth. He had done on a smaller scale what Paul was doing and in doing it proved the credo of Saint Augustine which was, "Every sinner can be a saint and every saint was once a sinner."

   Perhaps not as important but still notable is that my friend, unlike so many of us actually wrote to me while his spirit was broken, his family vacant and  his safety in danger. What does this say about some of us who don't write letters or cards of thanks or only say a half- hearted or casual "Thanks"?

  If my friend, a former prisoner can show this kind of virtue, much in the same way that Paul did, it isn't just a personal letter; it's a message, for me, for you and for all that read this.

  

   

 WALKING IN THE SHOES OF THE CARPENTER

A TRIBUTE BY PETER VUONO

   I was married 45 years ago. One of my closest friends-an usher in my wedding party-Joe DiFalco recently passed from lung cancer although he never smoked a cigarette in his life. Joe was one of 7 children and whose 4 brothers were absolute masters of building, repairing and auto mechanics.

  If the Difalco brothers were one's friend then one would never want for assistance in any possible job. I honestly think that if I asked the DiFalco brothers to build a down scaled model of a Boeing 747, they could do it.  I had a home gym in my garage and I'd like to say that Joe and his brothers helped me build it. It was just the opposite; I helped THEM build my gym!

 Because he was a natural born laborer, Joe took on many jobs which required hard work. He, however, would never complain about work or conditions. The thrust of his life was to uphold his vows as a husband and father and work to make life livable for his loved ones.

  In the 80's Joe worked in a meat packing house with sweat shop conditions and a tyrannical boss.  Another powerlifting friend of mine worked there too who told me of the conditions. This fellow hated the environment so much that he actually got into fisticuffs with the boss. Joe, however, continued the course of working hard without complaint. He'd never take home the angst that his job would cause. He'd simply and patiently wait for a better opportunity and move on.

 This is why it's so ironic to me that Joe was named for one of the most loyal and hard working husbands and dads of all time; Saint Joseph. Joseph was the son of Jacob and 27 generations from King David. He'd be the foster father of Jesus and when word got out that Herod wanted Jesus killed, Joseph was warned in the middle of the night. He got up without complaint, put his wife and son on a burro and WALKED  40 miles to Egypt. 

  When Herod was dead, Joseph, once again was told to return to Israel and once again he'd put his wife and son on the burro and walk the 40 miles back to Israel without out any inkling of consternation. It's here that my friend Joe was so much like Saint Joseph. A hard working family man dedicated to the vows he made in keeping his family safe, fed and happy.

  Even when Joe was on his sick bed, I apologized to him about some of the rapscallions who trained with us in the gym HE built as they made training, at times annoying. Even then, Joe, like his namesake showed no disappointment just as he did his entire life.

  Joe is now gone but his character and spirit will always remain with me. When life gets tough and I start to complain I'll think of my dear friend who like no one else truly walked in the shoes of the carpenter.

 WE ALL HAVE A TALENT

By Peter Vuono

   Recently, I saw a an FB posting of a friend that's a stand up comedian. He said that he felt "intimidated" in front of more seasoned comedians who went on with him on the same bill. I too, had a similar experience about 25 years ago.

   My wife treated me to Penn and Teller in Boston. They were beyond sensational and immediately after the show closed, they both donned their winter coats and greeted and thanked every patron upon leaving. They exhibited, great talent, professionalism, humility and class. I went away happy until I next performed myself.

  Four days later I did a magic birthday party for some nice kids in Plainville. It was a small group who were very receptive. However, as I drove off I thought of Penn and Teller. I felt so small in comparison and sometimes I still do to this day. However, after my friend made his comment about his stand-up routine I thought about it intensely.

  I'll never be a Penn or Teller but that's not what's important. I believe that everyone has a talent and should do everything they can to exhibit it! With some it's cooking,

or sewing,

or chess,

or auto mechanics,

or martial arts,

or accounting,

or plumbing,

or music,

or helping and rescuing animals,

or any other multitude of skills. What IS important is that you and I have a talent of some sort and as long as we have it we should use it to make life more livable for friends, family and strangers. We are co-pilots working for God. Mother Teresa once said to, "Do little things with great love" and when I get that inferiority feeling about my time watching Penn and Teller, I think of what she said; AND SHE WAS RIGHT!

 WORKING MAN 

Story by Peter Vuono

   Each morning when I go downstairs to my dungeon-like workout area, I play a variety of metal songs One favorite of mine has the following refrain;

"I get up at 7 yeah, I go to work at nine.

I got no time for livin, yes, I'm, working all the time.

It seems to me I could live my life a lot better than I think I am.

that's why they call me; they call me the working man".

   Yes, the song gets me charged up but it also reminds me of the hard working life of an old friend and teacher who recently passed on at age 82- Mike Russell. Mike had a calm and kind demeanor and was very slow to anger. In addition to this he was one of the most admirable teachers I had ever met for two reasons; the first was his incredible work ethic.

   Mike was a full time Social Studies teacher. However ,because he and his beloved wife Marlene had the  objective of getting ALL their children through college, Mike had the distinction of working at more jobs than anyone I had ever met at Brockton High School.

   Mike was junior class advisor, senior class advisor, coach, and summer school teacher. As if this weren't enough, he would leave his summer school job at noon and work as the chief charge' overseeing the East Side Pool, which, at the time, had a reputation for servicing some difficult youngsters whose peccadilloes would easily ward off the hardiest of teachers. On weekends, he took copious photographs of all the football players and selflessly gave the photos away free to the players. There was, however, as I have stated another facet to Mike's life which has forever stayed with me since I heard it in the mid eighties; and that was his profound philosophy of education.

   It was the mid 80's in the azure teacher's lounge early on a week day morning with little if no AC. Some of the boys were lamenting our being there and how nice it would be if we got a better rate during the year. Like a sage from the past, Mike calmly enunciated, "Look, no one ever told us that we'd  make money in teaching. We're here for something else". Indeed we were. We were there for our families and just as importantly; we were there for the kids!

  Now, decades later when I privately go out into the summer heat to a client's home for home teaching, I try not to think of the hardship of it. Rather, I  think back to the 80's to Mike's profound philosophy.

  None of us humans can even guess as to what is said to a deceased person by the Lord. I should think that in Mike's case there are two distinct possibilities;

  The first is "Well done, good and noble servant" and personally I like to think he may hear, 

"I get home at 5 O'clock and I take myself out a nice cold beer.

Always seem to be won'drin why  there's nothin going down here.

It's seems to me I could live my life

a lot batter than I think I am, 

that's why they call me; they call me the working man".

Be assured, he's living a rewarding life now.

SPECIAL NOTE: Title and lyrics were written by Neil Peart.

  

  

 ALLIE'S MESSAGE

By Peter Vuono

   Depicted here is my friend Allie. In the past, she was pretty active doing almost 50 magic shows a year and entertaining hundreds of kids. For the past 6 years, she's been on a very well deserved retirement. Allie is 27 years old and has NEVER been to the Vet! One would wonder as to why. Allie has a remarkable genetic blueprint from her ancestors

   Allie is a descendant(as are many birds) from a family of dinosaurs called Dromaeosaurs

. It is this family that contained all raptors  and similar claw footed predators . Sixty-five million years ago the world was in dire straits with multiple volcanic eruptions, shallow seas drying up and an asteroid which would land in the Yucatan Peninsula.

   The Dromeosaurs learned to adapt and evolve. They actually grew wings and acquired feathers so that they could fly to a safer destination to survive and allow nature to take it's course in evolution. I then wondered as to what we humans can do in a world that is rife with ecological, political and sociological degradation. Then it came to me; we can pray!

   In 1350 BC the Pharaoh Ikhnaton became monotheistic. One hundred years later, Moses would come to honor Adonai and save his people. NOW, most religions are monotheistic and we can all talk to the same God but in just different languages.

  It doesn't matter if we are Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, Shinto or even Zoroastrian! We sure don't have Allie's remarkable ancestry to help us survive but her message is strong and we may have something better. We can pray!

    

 ISAIAH 40:29

By Peter Vuono

   When I was a young boy I always, like many boys, wanted to be strong. I was inspired by wrestlers, bodybuilders, powerlifters, muscle men of the movies and my two cousins Ronnie and David who were Mastodons!

   I then embarked in powerlifting in 1967 and finished 2nd to last in my first meet in Nashua in Jan. of 1973. As time went on I achieved modest success but as the wights got heavier, so too, did injuries. On 3 different occasions, I ruptured both bicep tendons and herniated the L5 lumbar. However I never had surgery and in 85 after a hiatus from my broken back I pulled a 575 deadlift. I marveled how lucky I was but it got worse as I aged.

   After I retired from the school department I, at age, 59 had a heart attack and quadruple bypass. However I spent only 8 days in the hospital and was lifting weights two weeks later! Two years later, events fell into place that bordered on the miraculous. I completed my Black Belt training and humbly received the degree after 10 full years of training. In 2014, I pulled a 400 deadlift, again only two years after surgery, for an Elite Powerlifting Federation American record. However, more calamity struck. In the years that followed I had skin cancer surgery, cubital tunnel surgery, carpal tunnel surgery and lastly, in 2021, a knee replacement. It was then that more miracles occurred and I began to wonder.

 I walked the day after surgery on my knee without a cane or walker. On day 4 after surgery, I drove the car. I then decided to get back into powerlifting and on December 10, 2023, I at age 70, broke a world deadlift record for the Revolution Powerlifting Syndicate. Spurred on by the success, I unwisely went into another meet just six months later in Yarmouth Port. After missing my 1st attempt, I made it and then succeeded in breaking my own world record in the deadlift. I was filled with emotion.

  I fell into my wife's arms crying like a baby when I had the epiphany of why things went so positively. No, it wasn't the 7 days a of week training.

It wasn't the 3 days a week of cardio,

It wasn't the protein shakes or the vitamins.

It wasn't my own determination or tenacity

It wasn't just plain luck!

It WAS my decades long devotion to the Rosary which saved me.

It was God's accomplishment and not mine!.

Saint Padre Pio calls the Rosary the "Weapon of the age" but you can petition to the Lord in your own way!

It doesn't matter if you do it as a Muslim or a Buddhist, or  a Hindu, a Jew, a Christian or a Catholic so long as you petition the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. THAT is the true solution to the mystery of life. This is certainly NOT written as a statement of braggadocio but one of testimony! As Pope John Paul once said, "This is no time to keep the gospels secret but to preach them from the housetops."

   The Prophet Isaiah lived in the 8th century but his words are just as true now as the were thousands of years ago "The Lord gives comfort to the weary and strengthens the weak". 

 THE TENTH LEPER

By Peter Vuono

   In Luke 17:11 we see ten men afflicted with leprosy approach Jesus. They asked him to have pity on them and to cure them. Jesus said, "Go show yourselves to the priest". On their way, they noticed that they were healed and rejoiced. One stopped- a Samaritan- who was hated by the Jews. He returned to Jesus, fell on his knees and praised Jesus and God in thanks

   Jesus said, "Were not 10 healed? Where are the other nine. Did only this foreigner come back to praise God?" This story has a twofold purpose. It's first to show us that blessings may come our way at any time and that many are sometimes in disguise. However, we should learn to recognize them. The 2nd meaning is that God often uses people to bestow gifts and blessings upon us. We should certainly thank Him but also the persons giving the gift. In this way, it encourages them to continue good works and in turn makes THEM realize how special they really are in being co-pilots to God.

  Too often good deeds are never thanked. We see this all the time. I'd like to relay one such story. Years ago, New Jersey's Scott Bigelow got into wrestling. He was big, strong agile and had a legitimate Black Belt. He wrestled with great success in the 3 biggest wrestling companies of the day. 

   In July of 2000, while coming home from a tour of Japan at 3:30 AM, Bigelow notice a home in flames in his neighborhood. Three children, ages 3,5 and nine were left alone by their mom and managed to start a fire. Bigelow burst into the home and gabbed the children like a grizzly would grab a pumpkin. He ran down the stairs and out of the home to remand the kids to the fire personnel. He was a hero; but not without consequences. He received 2nd degree burns over 40% of his body and would spend 10 days in the hospital.

    Bigelow always fluffed the deed off in various YouTube videos but it was indeed an act of bravery- that no one acknowledged. He had worked for two billionaires and one millionaire and none of these men ever did anything to show recognition. In his later years his health waned. He succumbed to illnesses certainly exacerbated by the ring. It is safe to say, that if his deed was acknowledged then maybe the despair that he must have felt, would have been somewhat softened. He died at age 45.

    I approached the Carnegie Foundation which gives recognition to Bonafide heroes. I was too late as recognition must be given within 3 years of the act of bravery. This story is both tragic and sad but it surely illustrates the importance of Luke 17:11. I taught summer school English for 15 years and one of my assignments was to learn how to write  a " thank you" letter. I sincerely doubt that any of my students continued this assignment after the summer was over but that does not mean that we should abandon the thought.

   Send an E-mail. Write a letter. Send flowers or candy. Go to Dollar Tree and buy the fifty cent card.One of my friends from Germany actually sent a video of thanks to me years ago. It doesn't really matter how one does it. What's important is that you become the tenth leper. 

"Kind words and good deeds are eternal. You never know where their influence will end"- H. Jackson Browne Jr.

   

 RIPPLES IN A POND: 

A TRIBUTE TO KINDNESS

By Peter Vuono

   In 2010 my son was about to graduate from Massasoit Community  College but ran into an imposing stumbling block. One of his professors was inadvertently late in turning in a necessary grade for graduation. I panicked and called every dean and administrator that I could find but to no avail. 

   I contacted the then president of the college. Not only would the secretary not let me speak to him but she  also mentioned that she too was hesitant to ask him any burdening questions herself. I was exasperated, disheartened and disappointed in my alma mater. Fortunately a kind Dean and one additional administrator came to my aid and Micheal graduated on time but not without my having some disappointment.

   At about the same time, one of the most beloved professors in Massasoit history died from leukemia. She purposefully martyred herself by refusing treatment. She wanted it to go to someone younger than she. She never had a religious service and there was no burial place for her. Her ashes were scattered amongst the snow and ice. I thought, given the magnitude of her service, she should have some small memorial and remembrance. This is where the new president, Ray DiPasquale came in.

  Due to my past experience, I had a copious reservation in contacting him. After my confidence was bolstered by coach Bill Mitchell( who worked with the president), I contacted him. President DiPasquale was a man who had educational and political experiences dating back to Presidential candidate Mike Dukakis. He had absolutely nothing to gain by even listening to me but Professor Yellen was worth it and I sent him a story I wrote about her. 

  President DiPasquale shocked me because  he carried with him a trump card that not enough people carry-  kindness. I never actually met him; nor did I talk to him on the phone yet, he was more than willing to honor Professor Laura Yellen with a plaque. Furthermore, he also came up with an idea to honor a graduate who was severely inflicted with cerebral palsy- Pete Murby- who from approx. 1977-2023 selflessly volunteered his service to the college.

  Unfortunately on 4/4/24, President DiPasquale succumbed to cancer but not without teaching us all a lesson. He knew  full well that kindness transcends time and is forever stored up as treasure in heaven. Some people say that kindness is like dropping a pebble in a pond. The pebble sinks but it's impact spreads with ripples and continues to reach out touching one person upon another.

  If after hundreds of years go by and every brick and mortar of the buildings of Massasoit crumple, the pebble that Ray DiPasquale dropped will  transcend time.  It will continue to create ripples in the hearts of men and in the eyes of God.

  

 

 "THOSE WHO ARE FIRST NOW WILL BE LAST, AND

THOSE WHO ARE LAST NOW WILL BE FIRST"

By Peter Vuono

   Super Bowl LVIII is hyped to being the most watched super bowl of all time not to mention the most bet on. It's no wonder as the Kansas City Chiefs team is comprised of a modern day Camelot. They have a handsome quarterback who will go down in sports history as one of the greats. He, in turn has a model wife who appears in Sports Illustrated.

  The Chiefs have an uber-talented tight end who happens to be dating the world's most famous pop star. So it is quite normal for the general public to project themselves into the lives of the Chiefs and the corresponding  and glamorous social lives of the team and it's associates. It has always been this way since the Circus Maximus and is quite understandable. The bread and circus of Rome's gladiators were the heart and soul of it's people.

  On the other side- the 49'ers- there is an extraordinarily humble quarterback(Brock Purdy), who was picked in the final draft of the 49'er

s in 2022. He has been sometimes called, "Mr. Irrelevant". It is unknown to this author as to the degree of confidence Purdy has given the enormous interest in the other team but one thing that is evident, is Purdy's faith.

  Pope John Paul II once said that "This is no time to be afraid of the gospels. It is time to preach it from the house tops". Purdy seems to be an advocate of this type of thinking as he espouses his faith frequently.

  It's possible that he sees and follows a narrower and yet wiser path than just the pursuit of glory and a $30,000 ring. It's clear to this author that although Purdy is a gallant sportsman who wants to win, his priority is to build up treasure in heaven. A few years from now, sports fans will forget the game and the luster of the ring will fade but win or lose, his faith and the inspiration he has imparted to others will always remain.  Mr. "Irrelevant" has proven that he is perhaps more deserved of the nickname his team mates have given him- "Mr. Relevant". He's pointing to a statement which has been said in Genesis, 1st Corinthians and in the gospels. One that is more "Relevant" now, than ever, that, "Those who are 1st now will be last and those that are last now, will be first".

  

 HUMILITY, RESPECT AND GRACE

BY PETER VUONO

   In 2012 I had put in abut 8 years into Kenpo Karate training. My son and I trained together at Master Steve Arsenault's Kenpo in New Bedford Ma. Unfortunately, nature and genetics caused a large speed bump and I had a heart attack and quadruple by-pass in 2012. I recovered and continued training. Mike got his Black belt in front of Larry Tatum in 2013 and I finally got it in 2014 at age 61.

  Upon receiving a belt one must do a mandatory one year of additional training which is a probationary period where one proves that he or she would not abuse their training. It was during this time that Master Steve would incorporate sparring on Wednesday nights.

  He would pick the two combatants and we were all pretty well protected with head gear. One night he paired me with Black Belt C.J. Soares. C.J. was in his teens and had much experience in sparring competition. He only weighed about 145 but he had taken on opponents who were above 200lbs. His kicks(especially his tornado) were a sight to behold and he was about as fast as a sled on ice powered by nitrous oxide injection! I, on the other had had arthritis in the knee, hips and shoulders. I was about as fast as a centenarian Galapagos tortoise on valium!  I knew I was in for a thorough drubbing!

  Then something unexpected happened. A win is scored when one scores three strikes before his opponent does. I never saw C.J.'s lightning. It never struck. He defended himself and showed a minimum of offense. Somehow, I scored 3 points first and it didn't a take a Rhodes Scholar to figure out what happened.

  C.J. "jobbed" for me. What does "jobbing" mean one may ask? It's a carny/ pro wrestling term where the job of one wrestler is to lose and at the same time make his opponent look good before the audience. C.J. curbed his abilities so as to not outshine my lack of them.

  I'll never know if it was my age, or my disabilities that he was thinking of but it didn't matter. He had made a great example of himself in that encouragement trumps discouragement every time. That is what we are all here for and in every facet of life. C.J.'s example was for me and for everyone who reads his story. His act was the epitome of humility, respect and grace.

HUMILITY IS NOT THINKING OF YOURSELF LESS; IT'S THINKING LESS OF YOURSELF"-C.S.LEWIS